Let’s talk about relationship anxiety, and what you can do move past it ❤️😰 #relationshipanxiety #avoidant #anxious #learnontiktok #mentalhealth

🚨LIVE Group Program for anxious lovers - Enrolling now! LINK IN BIO 🚨 It's common for Anxious (Pursuers) and Avoidant (Distancers) partners to be in a relationship because their deepest fears are confirmed in each other.  Pursuers' deepest fear is that they are too much, aren't good enough, and will be abandoned. In contrast, distancers fear they'll be overwhelmed, smothered, or controlled if they get too close to people.  If you struggle with this, please know that you aren't alone, and with willingness and effort from both partners, it can be changed. Are you the ANXIOUS partner? Here are 3 more tips for you: 1. Learn about Avoidant Behavior: - Recognizing and understanding where their behaviors are coming from can help you take things less personally. 2. Bring the focus back to yourself: - Pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, and needs, and do your best to prioritize yourself! Anxious partners often self-abandon during the cycle.  3. Be there for yourself: - You're likely struggling in this cycle; it's a difficult place to be! Think about how you'd support a good friend if they're going through a tough time. Do your best to show up with similar compassion for yourself.  (Tips are focused on anxious partners, not because they are the only ones doing the 'work' but because this page is dedicated to anxious partners. Both partners must put in work.) NOTES:  - This doesn't apply to healthy distancing. In some situations, moving away from heated conversations might be the best decision. - This doesn't apply to abusive relationships nor encouraging for you to stay in unfulfilling/unhealthy relationship. ______ P.S. Are you the anxious partner and want to break your anxious patterns and become secure in yourself and, therefore, in your relationship? 🌟Then the 'Secure Love Program' is for you!🌟 * LIVE workshops + tools + homework. * 1:1 Private Coaching with me. Limited spots (Small group) Starting soon.  BOOK A CONSULT CALL - LINK IN BIO. #anxiousattachment #fearfulavoidant #avoidantattachment #relationshipanxiety #relationshipissues #relationshipproblems  #attachmenttrauma #anxiousavoidanttrap #pushandpull

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Those that struggle with anxiety often feel like they are “too much” in relationships. #anxiousattachmentstyle #relationshipanxiety #overlyemotional

🚨LIVE Program for Anxious lovers - Enrolling now: LINK IN BIO🚨When triggered, anxiously attached lovers often react aggressively because they are hyper-focused on preventing their biggest fear from happening: abandonment. They'll do whatever it takes, even if their protest behaviors are detrimental (pushing their partners away or putting them on a spot to see how they respond). Where does this come from? They typically grew up with inconsistent and unreliable parents, leading them as children to wonder: "Can I depend on you?" "Do you love me?" They never felt *quite* safe or secure growing up, creating abandonment beliefs:  "People aren't going to be there for me." "I'm not worthy of their love." If left unresolved, these beliefs get carried INTO one's adulthood. Deep down, anxious partners subconsciously hope their partners will fill the void by consistently loving them, no matter what (even if the behaviors are detrimental).  "If I push them away or act out and they still love me, that means I am lovable and that they won't leave me." However, this is neither a healthy way to heal nor sustainable; it'll ultimately wear down or break the relationship. The good news is that attachment styles are not permanent and can change. Some things to help you shift from anxious to secure: - Making the connection between past experiences and current behaviors. - Learning to provide love and acceptance for ourselves. - Learning how to soothe our anxiety. - Developing a loving relationship with our inner child. - Learning how to communicate our feelings/needs in a secure way. —— Do you want to go from anxious to secure? Then, this program is for you!! • Live workshops, practical guidance + Homework • 1:1 Private Coaching with me. • Community with other like-minded people Limited spots. Starting soon. Book a consult call with me to see if it’s the right fit for you! LINK IN BIO . . . . #anxiousattachment #fearfulavoidant  #relationshipanxiety #attachmenttrauma #anxietyhealing #relationshipproblems #datingproblems #attachmentissues

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🚨LIVE Group Program for anxious lovers - Enrolling now! LINK IN BIO🚨When triggered, anxiously attached lovers often react aggressively because they are hyper-focused on preventing their biggest fear from happening: abandonment. They’ll do whatever it takes, even if their protest behaviors are detrimental (threatening their partners being one of them). Where does this come from? They typically grew up with inconsistent and unreliable parents, leading them as children to wonder: “Can I depend on you?” “Do you love me?” “What do I have to do so that you love me?” They never felt *quite* safe or secure growing up, creating abandonment beliefs:  “People aren’t going to be there for me.” “I’m not worthy of their love.” If left unresolved, these beliefs get carried INTO one’s adulthood. Deep down, anxious partners subconsciously hope their partners will fill the void by consistently loving them, no matter what (even if the behaviors are detrimental).  “If I push them away or act out and they still love me, that means I am lovable and that they won’t leave me.” However, this is neither a healthy way to heal nor sustainable; it’ll ultimately break the relationship that anxious lovers were hoping to save.  The good news is that attachment styles are not permanent and can change. Here’s what helped my clients become secure: - Understanding our attachment style and connecting our past with current behaviors. - Providing love and compassion for ourselves. - Soothing and regulating our feelings. - Having healthy boundaries. - Communicating our feelings/needs securely. Ready to let go of anxious patterns and become secure?  🌟Then, the Secure Love Program is FOR YOU!🌟 • LIVE workshops + tools+ homework • 1:1 Private Coaching with me. • Community with other like-minded people Limited spots - STARTS IN APRIL! APPLY NOW - LINK IN THE BIO #anxiousattachment #fearfulavoidant #disorganizedattachment #relationshipanxiety #relationshipissues #relationshipproblems #datinganxiety #attachmenttrauma

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🚨LIVE Group Program for anxious lovers - Enrolling now! LINK IN BIO🚨 It’s common for Anxious (Pursuers) and Avoidant (Distancers) partners to be in a relationship because their deepest fears are confirmed in each other.  Pursuers' deepest fear is that they are too much, aren't good enough, and will be abandoned. While, distancers fear they'll be overwhelmed, smothered, or controlled if they get too close to people.  If you struggle with this, please know that you aren't alone, and with willingness and effort from both partners, it can be changed. Are you the ANXIOUS partner? Here are 3 more tips for you: 1. Learn about Avoidant Behavior: * Recognizing and understanding where their behaviors are coming from can help you take things less personally. 2. Bring the focus back to yourself: * Pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, and needs, and do your best to prioritize yourself! Anxious partners often self-abandon during the cycle.  3. Be there for yourself: * You're likely struggling in this cycle; it's a difficult place to be! Think about how you'd support a good friend if they're going through a tough time. Do your best to show up with similar compassion for yourself.  (Tips are focused on anxious partners, not because they are the only ones doing the 'work' but because this page is dedicated to anxious partners. Both partners must put in work.) NOTES:  - This doesn't apply to healthy distancing. In some situations, taking a break and moving away from heated conversations can be GOOD for the relationship. —This doesn't apply to abusive relationships nor encouraging for you to stay in unfulfilling/unhealthy relationship. ______ P.S. Are you the anxious partner and want to break your anxious patterns and become secure in yourself and, therefore, in your relationship? 🌟Then the 'Secure Love Program' is for you!🌟 * LIVE workshops + tools + homework. * 1:1 Private Coaching with me. Limited spots (Small group) Starting soon.  BOOK A CONSULT CALL - LINK IN BIO. #anxiousattachment #fearfulavoidant #avoidantattachment #anxiousavoidanttrap #pushandpull #relationshipanxiety #relationshipissues #relationshipproblems #attachmenttrauma #anxietyhealing

If left unresolved, our attachment wounds will get carried into our adult relationships, where we repeat the same patterns until we can resolve them. Deep down, anxiously attached partners subconsciously hope their partners will heal their wounds by consistently loving them and showing up the way they wished their parents did for them. "If I can make sure they're happy with me, they'll be there for me, love me, and accept me as I am. And I'll finally feel enough." Although healthy, secure partners can help us on our healing journey, only relying on them is not healthy or sustainable. It'll likely push them away, as they'll feel defeated and inadequate to love you the way you want them to be loved. The good news is that attachment styles are not permanent and can change. Some things you can do to heal the attachment wounds within: - Making the connection between past experiences and current behaviors. - Learning to provide love and acceptance for ourselves. - Learning how to soothe our anxiety. - Developing a loving relationship with our inner child. - Learning how to communicate our feelings/needs in a secure way. NOTE This doesn't apply to abusive or unhealthy relationships where anyone (no matter their attachment style) would feel anxious due to unhealthy behaviors from their partners. _______ Ready to go from anxious to secure? 🚨LIVE Secure Love Program🚨 • Live workshops + tools • 1:1 Private Coaching with me. • Community with other like-minded people 2 SPOTS LEFT Start next week. LINK IN BIO . . . . #anxiousattachment #disorganizedattachment #relationshipanxiety #attachmenttrauma #anxietyhealing #attachmentissues #relationshipproblems #anxiousattachmentstyle

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If you struggle with any form of anxiety and/or OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) it’s common for this to manifest into relationships in your life Most of us know what OCD is, but ROCD (relationship OCD) is a term that describes a lot of intrusive thoughts/compulsions relating to close personal relationships This can look like intrusive/obsessive thoughts like: “Am I still attracted to my partner? “What if they cheat on me?” “Are they cheating on me?” “I don’t feel butterflies, does that mean something’s wrong?” “What if we fall out of love?” ..bringing on heavy feelings, anxiety, and the spiral of asking yourself “is this just anxiety or is this my intuition?” The biggest difference between the two is intuition is more rooted in calm, where anxiety will come with a lot of emotions and fear. If you think you may be struggling with ROCD, go to NOCD.COM/ROCD to learn more 💛 Reminder: you’re not alone ❤️‍🩹 #rocd #relationshipanxiety #obsessivecompulsivedisorder #ocdsupport #rocdawareness

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You are not alone. Change is possible & it starts with awareness ❤️ . #anxiousattachment #insecureattachment #fearfulavoidant #secureattachment #emotionalhealing #relationshipanxiety #anxiousattachmentstyle #anxiouspeople

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MORE TIPS 👇 1. Acknowledge your contribution to the problem; this shows vulnerability and accountability, which helps to bring their walls down. 2. Emphasize the WHY; focus on how it benefits your partner and the relationship. 3. If they do share something, don’t get defensive about their responses. STAY CURIOUS. Continue to ask them questions to understand their experience. THEN, calmly share your thoughts and feelings without blame. UNDERSTANDING THE DIFFERENT RESPONSES: ANXIOUSLY-ATTACHED lovers panic and protest when problems aren’t solved immediately, or they sense their partner is withdrawing. This is because, deep down, they don’t believe they’re worthy of love and deeply fear abandonment. So, when their partner doesn’t want to talk about problems, they see this as an early sign of potential abandonment. They do whatever they can to avoid it: clingy, hypervigilant, blaming, criticizing, or pushing their partner to solve problems NOW. These behaviors backfire because they make their partner feel even more unsafe and push them away even further. SECURELY-ATTACHED people feel uneasy when their partners don’t want to discuss problems. But they usually approach it with respect, patience, and understanding because: A) they’re able to regulate their feelings and aren’t driven by the panic of abandonment and B) they understand that challenges are inevitable and aren’t afraid of overcoming them. Although usually patient & understanding, they know what they deserve and want in a relationship, so they aren’t afraid to draw boundaries or walk away if the relationship is detrimental. -— Want to work on anxious patterns and become more secure? Then, the Secure Love Group Program is for you: - LIVE Group coaching program - Limited spots Start in April. Application only: LINK IN BIO #anxiousattachment #relationshipanxiety #insecureattachment #communicationtips #secureattachment #relationship101

Developing a secure attachment style will help you if you are in a relationship now or if you hope to be in one in the future! Do you recognize any of these sings in yourself? Let me know in the comments 💬 #secureattachment #secureattachmentstyle #securelove #anxiousattachment #anxiousheart #relationshipanxiety #couplestherapist #utah

Replying to @PaiZhao Confidence over certainty. Certainty is an illusion. #relationships #marriage #commitment #avoidantattachment #fomo #rocd #relationshipanxietycoach #relationshipanxiety

This is a very common struggle for those with anxious attachment style. Growing up with inconsistent or unreliable parents, they often wondered: "Can I depend on you?" "Do you love me?" "What do I have to do so that you love me?" They never felt *quite* safe or secure growing up, which created abandonment beliefs such as: "People aren't going to be there for me." "I'm not worthy of their love." Over time, they learned to associate these feelings with love. Deep down, anxiously-attached partners (subconsciously) hope their partners will heal this wound by consistently loving them and showing up the way they wished their parents did for them. "If I can make sure they're happy with me, they'll be there for me, love me, and accept me as I am. And I'll finally feel enough." Although healthy, secure partners can help us on our healing journey, only relying on them is not healthy or sustainable. It'll push them away, as they'll feel defeated and inadequate to love you the way you want them to be loved.  The good news is that attachment styles are not permanent and can change. Some things you can do to heal the attachment wounds within: - Making the connection between past experiences and current behaviors. - Learning to provide love and acceptance for ourselves. - Learning how to soothe our anxiety. - Developing a loving relationship with our inner child. - Learning how to communicate our feelings/needs securely. NOTES: * This doesn't apply to abusive or unhealthy relationships where anyone (no matter their attachment style) would feel uneasy/anxious due to their partners' behaviors.  * This isn’t the only reason behind the obsessive behaviour. _______ Ready to go from anxious to secure? 🚨LIVE Secure Love Program🚨 • Live workshops + tools • 1:1 Private Coaching with me. • Community with other like-minded people 2 SPOTS LEFT Start next week. LINK IN BIO #anxiousattachment #disorganizedattachment #relationshipanxiety #attachmenttrauma #anxietyhealing #attachmentissues #anxiousattachmentstyle #anxiousmind #obsessivelove #fearofabandonment

When we're worried about something or in the heat of an argument, we'll often catastrophize and assume the worst . . . and this makes it easier for us to rush to confirm our worst suspicions without evidence. #Dating101 #RelationshipTok #RelationshipAnxiety #Arguments #Relationship #Catastrophizing #LisaBilyeu #LoveLife #MatthewHussey @Lisa Bilyeu

🚨LIVE Program for anxious lovers - Enrolling now! LINK IN BIO🚨 When triggered, anxiously-attached lovers tend to over-focus on the negatives or even look for problems in their relationship in an attempt to prevent their biggest fear from happening; abandonment.  Where does this come from? They typically grew up with inconsistent and unreliable parents, leading them as children to wonder: “Can I depend on you?” “Do you love me?” They never felt *quite* safe or secure growing up, creating abandonment beliefs:  “People aren’t going to be there for me.” “I’m not worthy of their love.” If left unresolved, these beliefs get carried INTO one’s adulthood. Deep down, anxious partners subconsciously hope their partners will fill the void by consistently reassuring and loving them, no matter what (even if the behaviors are detrimental).  “If I point out problems and they still love me, that means I am lovable, and they won’t leave me.” Most partners will do their best to reassure their love, but this isn’t healthy or sustainable. It will ultimately wear down the relationship, which sadly CONFIRMS anxious lovers’ worst fear; abandonment. The good news is that attachment styles can change. Some things you can do: - Making sense of yourself by connecting past experiences with current behaviors. - Learning how to soothe our anxiety. - Developing a loving relationship with our inner child. - Learning how to communicate our feelings/needs in a secure way. ——- Do you want to break your anxious patterns and become secure in yourself and therefore in your relationship? 🌟Then the 'Secure Love Program' is for you!🌟 * LIVE workshops + tools + homework. * 1:1 Private Coaching with me. * Community with other like-minded people. Limited spots. Starting soon.  APPLY + BOOK A CONSULT CALL, USING LINK IN BIO. . . . #anxiousattachment #disorganizedattachment #relationshipanxiety #relationshipissues #attachmenttheory #relationshipproblems #datingproblems #attachmentissues #attachmentstyle

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ROCD (relationship OCD) and relationship anxiety symptoms are not limited to ongoing nor romantic relationships. It can show up around any meaningful relationship in someone’s life (parent, child, ex, G0d, higher power, boss, friends, etc) and, like all manifestations of OCD, is characterized by extreme doubt and uncertainty. The obsessions (and compulsions) can be time consuming, distressing, and can interfere with ones life and relationships. It’s not uncommon for individuals experiencing ROCD to avoid relationships, push people away, or seek an excessive amount of reassurance that can be stressful for the other people in the relationship. Accepting that you will never know for sure if someone is “the one”, you will never know for sure what someone is thinking or feeling about you, you will never know for sure if things could’ve been different with an ex, etc is the pathway to more mental freedom. You do not need to know these things with certainty to move forward with deeply connected and meaningful relationships. I know this can be easier in theory than practice, but with proper support and dedication, you can heal! Let me know in the c0mments if you relate and fo||ow me for more OCD and relationship anxiety support ❤️ #relationshipanxiety #relationshipanxietyawareness #rocd #rocdawareness #obsessivecompulsivedisorder #ocdtok #relationshipadvice #relationshiptips #ocd #relationshiptok

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We’ve all been there, but when this is a behaviour you rely on consistently, it may be worth looking at a little deeper. #consciouspsychologist #tantrums #tantrumsfordays #psychology #therapytok #mentalhealth #love #relationships #therapytiktok #therapytiktokhelp #psychologist #anxiety #relationshipanxiety

Replying to @Georgia0407 I used to struggle with this, too! You’re not alone. This line of thinking is a neverending trap— so feeling content will require a complete overhaul of your relational belief systems. #relationshipanxiety #rocd #commitment #marriage

Doubt doesn’t mean don’t. Those that struggle to trust themselves due to relational trauma will have difficulty discerning intuition versus a trauma response telling them to run in response to something healthy and wholesome. #rocd #relationshipanxiety #avoidantattachment #anxiousattachment #disorganizedattachment