Our next questions in the series! How important is it for you to maintain a work-life balance, and how can we achieve it together? How do you feel about mental health, and how should we support each other in that area? What are your views on personal growth and self-improvement within a relationship? How do you feel about aging and caring for elderly parents or relatives in the future? What are your intimacy expectations and needs within our relationship? How do you envision our roles evolving as we grow older together? What are your thoughts on leadership and decision-making within our relationship? #consciousrelationships #consciouscouple #relationshipgoals #intimacy

These questions are designed to be tough, and while you don’t need to have all the answers right now, this series is dedicated to having the tough conversations out of conflict ❤️ How do you feel about spending time apart for personal hobbies or interests? What are your views on lifestyle choices such as diet, exercise, and health? How should we approach disagreements about spending priorities and budgeting? What are your thoughts on our shared responsibilities? How can we find a way to balance this as our relationship changes? How do you feel about expressing emotions and vulnerability within our relationship? How important is it for you to have shared or separate friend groups? What are your expectations for growth and change within our relationship over the years? #consciousrelationships #consciouscouple #relationshipgoals #intimacy

The essence of a secure relationship ❤️ It’s natural for us to strive for a more secure attachment style, but it’s equally vital for our relationship to evolve into a secure partnership. At times, certain aspects may challenge specific attachment styles. For the anxious, trust becomes paramount—trust that their partner won’t abandon them, trust that their partner will respect their need for space, and trust in their own ability to navigate challenges independently. For avoidants, responsiveness is key. Even if they can’t immediately meet a need, can they communicate their space requirements effectively? Can they identify and address disengagement patterns? For both styles, creating interdependence is crucial, allowing each partner to transition between styles safely, with the assurance that their needs will be met in due time ❤️ #consciousrelationships #consciouscouple #relationshipgoals #intimacy

Dating can be challenging! We might find ourselves going on date after date, gradually feeling disheartened and disillusioned. Here are five practical tools to enhance your dating journey and prevent burnout: 1. Define the qualities you seek in a partner. Understanding their values and lifestyle helps narrow your focus to potential matches, recognising that perfection isn’t the goal, but compatibility and room for growth are essential. 2. View relationships as ongoing learning experiences. Reflect on each interaction to identify what resonated with you and what didn’t, including assessing your own behavior and lessons learned. 3. Take breaks from dating apps after failed talking periods. Resist the urge to use them as a quick fix for bruised egos. Processing emotions rather than suppressing them prevents resentment from building up. 4. End connections respectfully. Avoid the temptation of ghosting or fading out after a date. Express gratitude for the experience and kindly communicate your decision, offering clarity if needed, to create positive closure for both parties. 5. Be conscious when using dating apps. Recognise the allure of endlessly seeking potential matches and the dopamine rush it provides (there is a currently lawsuit around this). If someone says one thing that confuses you instead of swiftly dismissing someone, seek clarity and understanding before making decisions. Or better yet try put yourself in real life situations where you are more likely to connect with like-minded people. #consciousrelationships #consciouscouple #relationshipgoals #intimacy #intentionaldating

I don’t know who needs to hear this but reading about doing the inner work and reflecting on the past isn’t embodying the work. We actually have to take what we have learnt and put it into play. It’s a common pitfall to attribute our behaviour in relationships solely to our upbringing and past experiences, leading us to obsess over the reasons behind our actions and traits. This introspection, while crucial for understanding oneself, often spirals into self-blame and shame, reinforcing negative beliefs about our worthiness in love and the fate of our relationships. However, dwelling on these aspects does not encourage personal growth or healing. Instead, the key to breaking this cycle lies in shifting our focus towards learning and adopting positive relationship behaviors. By actively engaging in practices that promote secure attachments and learning the tools to move forward (and implementing them - while facing our fears) we not only learn to navigate through the emotional challenges but also to grow from them. This proactive approach encourages us to embrace imperfections and setbacks as opportunities for development, steering us towards healthier, more fulfilling connections. If you understand your attachment style, if you understand how your past is impacting your relationships, it’s time to shift towards learning how to improve your relationship weaknesses (yes we all have them) and looking for healthy relationship models. #consciousrelationships #consciouscouple #relationshipgoals #intimacy