I used to refuse to hold his hand or hug him when I was mad at him. Because “what the heck!!! I’m angry!!!! now’s not the time for affection!!!! It’s the time for showing you exactly how much I’m hurting!!!!” But I’ve realized, over time, that this doesn’t resonate with the person I want to be, or the relationship I want to have. the vast majority of the time that we fight, it’s not over an urgent, massive, potentially relationship-ending issue. & therefore, even in those moments when my anger and frustration is overwhelming, it’s perhaps even more important that we embody & share the love we have for each other. Because when a triggered mind & defensive behavior overcomplicate an otherwise simple issue, safety & intimacy can bring us both down to earth… & remind us of what is truly important :-) // SEO // Advice on relationships struggling Stop fighting in your relationship Trying to fix a relationship How to stop arguing relationship How to stop arguing so much in a relationship Ways to stop arguing How to stop arguing over little things How to avoid arguments How to grow together How to heal together How to have a healthier relationship Healthy relationship advice #l#lovequotest#trueloves#soulmatess#soulmatec#corecorer#relationshipgoalsl#lovepoeml#lovepoetryp#poetrytok#i#inloveh#hopecoren#nichetokn#nichecores#spokenwordp#poetryloverc#creativewritingw#webweavingrelationshipadvice