Earlier today, i saw a post from @RealJudgeLynn where spoke life into this young lady about her fears of being alone and how she is allowing that to make her accept a piece of a man. She was encouraging her to know she deserves more, better, and that the little he was giving is taking more from her than adding to her! It got me to thinking about how long I was that same young lady. I began to weep at the thought that I ever moved in love with that mindset. That I ever wanted to be loved so desperately that I would allow mental manipulation and verbal abuse in the name of “this is better than nothing”. One thing I thank Jonathan for everyday is that he is not only the wholeness I deserve, but he’s making sure our girls know they deserve nothing less as well. I have healed with the thought that my girls, even at the age they are currently, have no plans to tolerate a piece of anything. They see a man every single day pour all he has, and some he doesn’t, into all 4 of us and desire that or nothing at all. I see now that I didn’t fail then, i just needed to learn. I needed to learn what God didn’t have for me so that I can recognize what He does. I don’t know who needs to hear this but don’t allow fear of being alone make excuse for your light being dim because the clouds are out, all while praying the clouds clear eventually. Love, even when being tried, should never dim your light! It should never make you feel drained, broken or conflicted. You can definitely do better by yourself until God sends you that one who will love you to your best! Happy Friday Tok Family! Love you, see you next time 🤎 #healthylove #blacklove #millenialmarriage #marriedmybestfriend #youdeservebetter #blackloveexists #blackmarriagemovement #couplestiktok #wholesomeness