Building your self up isn’t a one time event. You have to make it a habit to appreciate all the things you’ve overcome. If not, you’ll focus on the failures and complete miss the masterpiece you’ve become. I know these things are true, yet even I forget from time to time. So tell a friend to tell a friend to go live on them self a little. #emotionalintelligence #selflove #selfdevelopment #blackmen #healing #relationships #terrylashley #lifecoachingtips #selfawarenessjourney #lessonslearned #lowselfesteem

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You don’t have to be “fixed” to start a new relationship, but you should at least be in a place where your partner doesn’t have to fill their cup and yours. It’s too much pressure for someone to be responsible for your happiness and theirs. You should be bringing happiness to the table. How’s your weekend coming along? #emotionalintelligence #selflove #selfdevelopment #blackmen #healing #relationships #terrylashley #lifecoachingtips #selfawarenessjourney #lessonslearned #lowselfesteem

AUDIO BLOG: Stop Self Sabotage - - - 1. **Identify Self-Sabotaging Behaviors**: Recognize actions that counter your own interests, like procrastination or fear of commitment. 2. **Acknowledge the Consequences**: Understand that these behaviors lead to stagnation, failed outcomes, and hurt relationships. 3. **Understand the Root Causes**: Reflect on underlying issues such as low self-esteem, fear of change, or a need for control. 4. **Recognize the Protection Mechanism**: See self-sabotage as an attempt to avoid emotional and psychological discomfort. 5. **Commit to Awareness and Effort**: Embrace the need for self-awareness and the willingness to make changes. 6. **Practice Self-Compassion**: Treat yourself kindly, acknowledging that change is a process. 7. **Address Negative Thought Patterns**: Identify, question, and adjust your negative thoughts and beliefs. 8. **Confront Self-Sabotaging Actions**: Challenge your behaviors by understanding their motivations and impacts. 9. **Take Responsibility**: Acknowledge your role in your actions and their consequences. 10. **Start Small**: Take manageable steps towards change to build confidence and momentum. 11. **Be Patient and Persistent**: Recognize that overcoming self-sabotage is a journey requiring time and continuous effort. #SelfSabotage #OvercomeHabits #BehaviorChange #Procrastination #FearOfCommitment #PoorOutcomes #DamagedRelationships #SelfPreservation #LowSelfEsteem #FearOfChange #ControlIssues #PsychologicalStress #BreakTheCycle #SelfAwareness #ConsciousEffort #SelfCompassion #NegativeThoughtPatterns #ChallengeBeliefs #TakeResponsibility #SmallSteps #ManageableTasks #LastingChange #PersonalGrowth #SelfImprovement #AwarenessIsKey #Motivation #Willpower #SelfHelp #MentalHealthAwareness #ChangeIsHard #SelfReflection #mentalhealth #martialarts #sport #health #nutrition #psychology #psychologyfacts

We know who we are by the evidence of our actions. To become better at anything we must take actions towards that very thing, and that becomes the proof of who we are. Far too often we claim things without there being no evidence. You ever heard the person with the biggest attitude claim to be the nicest person? Thats because the words we use are what we “want” to be, but our actions are who we truly are. Just my thoughts, what you think? Can you relate? #emotionalintelligence #selflove #Selfdevelopment #blackmen #healing #relationships #terrylashley #lifecoachingtips #selfawarenessjourney #lessonslearned #lowselfesteem

Growing up we learned that if you aren’t feeling happy something might be wrong with you. I have to say that I generally disagree with that. Humans come with many emotions, each one designed to cope with a given situation. Sadness, guilt, anxiety are all reasonable emotions and experiences given a set of circumstances. Emotional maturity is learning to understand your emotions and to regulate them so that you balance the fact that you must allow your self to feel them, yet not allow them to take over your life. Did you recognize any of these lessons in your life in 2023? #emotionalintelligence #selflove #selfdevelopment #blackmen #healing #relationships #terrylashley #lifecoachingtips #selfawarenessjourney #lessonslearned #lowselfesteem

We spend most of our life trying to fit in, only to realize that we shine brightest when we stand out! One thing I’ve been doing is allowing my self to be who I was naturally called to be. And I can’t be that person if I’m worrying about what others think of me. So, I’m going to hit this 2-step no matter how cringy others might feel about it. Because those that love you will encourage you to be your most authentic self 🤎 Do you ever stop doing what you love because you are afraid of what others might say? #emotionalintelligence #selflove #selfdevelopment #blackmen #healing #relationships #terrylashley #lifecoachingtips #selfawarenessjourney #lessonslearned #lowselfesteem

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One thing I’ve learned is you don’t have to wait for the world to understand you in order to understand your self. How could they? You are an original copy! You don’t need the validation of others to be sure of your self. There is so much power in being able to dance to your own beat. Try it! What are your weekend plans? 🕺🏽 #emotionalintelligence #selflove #Selfdevelopment #blackmen #healing #relationships #terrylashley #lifecoachingtips #selfawarenessjourney #lessonslearned #lowselfesteem

Here is a crazy fact, when people observe highly confident people they usually are blind to that persons obvious imperfections. I’ve never thought I was perfect, or better than anyone else. Don’t let my love for self convince you of that. I’ve simply decided to love every aspect of who I am, and it feels good af. The world wants you to believe that you need something “else” to be the best version of your self, but you simply to not need a single thing! #emotionalintelligence #selflove #selfdevelopment #blackmen #healing #terrylashley #selfawarenessjourney #lowselfesteem

We should always be constantly preparing for the “things” we want in life. Those things could be anything from buying a house to a loving relationship. The work always comes before the prize. So think about what you want in life, and then ask your self if you are doing the work… Cloud couch and my home is clean. Next is some grocery shopping preparing to prepare for my week with my baby girl. What are you preparing for at this moment in your life? #emotionalintelligence #selflove #selfdevelopment #blackmen #healing #relationships #terrylashley #lifecoachingtips #selfawarenessjourney #lessonslearned #lowselfesteem

What’s your view on what love is? I wrote this poem 12 years ago in a space where I was trying to figure out life. And even way back then, I knew that we often have these super high expectations from those we love that we can’t realistically keep up with our selves. Let’s face it, none of us are perfect. I’m all about growth and change, but you have to love people where they are, not just when they get there. And the biggest part to this all, is that you have to begin with your self. I have tons of more poetry that I wrote over the years. Let me know your thoughts. Id love to share more. #emotionalintelligence #selflove #selfdevelopment #blackmen #healing #relationships #terrylashley #lifecoachingtips #selfawarenessjourney #lessonslearned #lowselfesteem #poetryporn

It took me all these years to learn that seeking happiness in people and things will only lead you to sadness and depression. Because people including my self are imperfect, and when they fall so will you if you’re depending on them for your smile. Let your joy come from within and nobody will have the power to take it away 🤎 Sorry I’ve been M.I.A. I’ve been recuperating. I don’t get sick often, but when I do! I’m a big ass baby lol. Anyway, two things that always lifts my spirits are music and sunsets. How about you? #emotionalintelligence #selflove #selfdevelopment #blackmen #healing #relationships #terrylashley #lifecoachingtips #selfawarenessjourney #lessonslearned #lowselfesteem

Each time you allow someone to trample a boundary you’ve created a new standard for your self. Boundaries themselves aren’t difficult, it’s only hard with the people and situations you never established your boundaries with. Regardless, when you are ready to protect your peace you have to establish rules for folks to share your space and time. Remember you can’t and you do NOT need to come from anyone. Just create the boundary and remove your self if it isn’t followed. And you do NOT have to compromise on boundaries. Where do you stand on this? Do you agree? #emotionalintelligence #selflove #selfdevelopment #blackmen #healing #relationships #terrylashley #boundries #selfawarenessjourney #lessonslearned #lowselfesteem #settingboundaries

Boundaries are not for everyone else’s protection, they are for you and you alone. Determine what feels safe to you and start building your boundaries. Then sit back and enjoy your peace. Plans for this Saturday? #emotionalintelligence #selflove #Selfdevelopment #blackmen #healing #relationships #terrylashley #lifecoachingtips #selfawarenessjourney #lessonslearned #lowselfesteem

Truth is we all go through the fire, but I’m not sure if many of us know how to come out as a new product. And I know none of these steps aren’t necessarily “easy”, but they are all critical of you want a transformation and not to repeat the same lessons over and over again. Which point resonates most with you? #emotionalintelligence #selflove #selfdevelopment #blackmen #healing #relationships #terrylashley #selfawarenessjourney #lessonslearned #lowselfesteem

What happens if you just let go? What happens if you stop trying to control every aspect of your life, and allowed it to develop into whatever it was meant to be. The only person you were ever meant to control is YOU. The only person you actually have control of is YOU. But we spend so much time trying to control and predict others… I always get asked, how do I find that peace? Here is the answer. Set your boundaries to create a space that peace can thrive in your life. Soon you’ll be dancing right along with me. It’s 2024, tell me one activity that you do that brings you peace in the comments. I’m going to be asking you if you’ve done this all year. #emotionalintelligence #selflove #selfdevelopment #blackmen #healing #relationships #terrylashley #lifecoachingtips #selfawarenessjourney #lessonslearned #lowselfesteem

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Disciplining your teen for being lazy and not trying in school is making the situation worse. Your teen isn’t trying because they already believe they’re a failure, not because they're lazy and don't care (I know because I WAS your teen!!). Their confidence is in their boots and their anxiety has risen to become avoidance. Trying and failing more is too much so they shut down and stop trying. Your teen needs you to be their ally, not judge and jury. They need your help to find simple learning and time management strategies that work as they rebuild their confidence to try again, especially with ADHD. I was your teen - going from straight A's to failing out. Tap the 🔗 in profile for my free masterclass with my proven framework to turn this around. #lowselfesteem #avoidance #stoptrying #fearoffailure #failing #mommingishard #mommingsohard #parentingadvice #parentingishard #parentingteens #raisingteens #empoweringparents #momofteens #parentsofteenagers #cyclebreakers #parentsofteens

Over the last year I’ve went through several “resets” and they’ve allowed me to get through each of those moments. Sometimes it was because I learned something new about my self and I needed to make an adjustment, and sometimes it was because I was making mistakes and needed a do-over. All of which is okay! Have you had any resets this year? #emotionalintelligence #selflove #Selfdevelopment #blackmen #healing #relationships #terrylashley #lifecoachingtips #selfawarenessjourney #lessonslearned #lowselfesteem

#stitch with @Hannah How we view ourselves can heavily influence how we interpret and receive love from others. If someone believes they are unworthy or undeserving of love, they may unconsciously reject or sabotage affection that doesn't align with that belief, reinforcing a cycle where they only accept the love they feel matches their perceived worth. Of course, I’m only bias to say.. if this is an area you want to consider working on, therapy work often helps with exploring and challenging these deep-seated beliefs to foster healthier patterns of acceptance and self-love. #therapworks#selfesteem#lowselfesteem#toxicrelationships

Some people love to see others# misfortunes. The german word schadenfreude is what its called. Why people feel pkeasure in others misfortunes isn’t always from a place of narcissism. When someone has verry low self esteem they want others to feel the level of misfortune they feel they have. These are not people to be reckoned with. Just let them wallow in their own misery. #schadenfreude #loriwheeler #insecurity #lowselfesteem #selfawareness

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Trouble accepting a compliment is a symptom of low self esteem and can cause self Sabotage in other areas of your life. You can fix this by working on the underlying issues like your core beliefs, and you will find that compliments become more comfortable. Learn to love Yourself. ❤️ #leartoloveyourselfagain #knowyourworth #knowyourvalue #startingoverstronger #overcomelowselfesteem #becomethewomanyouwanttobe #bossupyourlife #womenscoach #learntoloveyourself #acceptingcompliments #lowselfesteem #selfsabotage #tackleyourlowselfesteem

Ive been thinking about Steph and her comment and it raised some memories for me… #lowselfesteem #lowselfesteemissues #lowbodyimage #bodyimage #bodyimageissues #fyp

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