The Inner Work can help you understand, address, and heal any and all human issues you may find yourself struggling with. In the case of perfectionism, we have gone through traumatic experiences that imprinted our subconscious with an intimidation of wrongness and mistakes. Usually religion or harsh parenting where wrongness or mistakes are met with extreme rejection or punishment are a common source. Perfectionism is the mind trying to overcompensate for this paranoia by intimidating us to be perfect “or else.” So even after the original intimidation is removed our subconscious continues the pressure because it still thinks it’s keeping us safe. In order to heal from this we need to actually allow ourselves to make peace with our humanness and realize we can only do the best we can in each moment with what we know at the time. Mistakes and consequences that are uncomfortable are a natural part of life and are not personal. To make a mistake just means you have to go through the consequences of that choice and learn, but the mind of perfectionism makes us feel like it is life or death. This is a crippling pressure and internal stress overtime. Whoever originally passed this belief system onto us had not learned any grace in life themselves and most likely live in their own internal torture of impossible standards. True self-confidence doesn’t come from being perfect all the time, it actually is the ability to recover from any setbacks with ease, grace, and most importantly optimism for the lessons learned. The irony is when we have this more relaxed confidence we tend to show up our best. Get The Inner Work to learn more about the healing journey and how to reach your full potential of a life of true freedom and lasting happiness. Why am I so hard on myself Where does perfectionism come from Why do I always have to do things perfect Why do they have to always do it their way Neurotic behavior Why am I perfectionist #innerwork #theinnerwork #theinnerworkbook #innerchildhealing #shadowwork #selfhelpbooks #traumahealing #innerchildwork #innerchild #booksthatchangedmylife #innerchildhealing #perfectionist #perfectionism