🚨LIVE Group Program for anxious lovers - Enrolling now! LINK IN BIO 🚨 It's common for Anxious (Pursuers) and Avoidant (Distancers) partners to be in a relationship because their deepest fears are confirmed in each other. Pursuers' deepest fear is that they are too much, aren't good enough, and will be abandoned. In contrast, distancers fear they'll be overwhelmed, smothered, or controlled if they get too close to people. If you struggle with this, please know that you aren't alone, and with willingness and effort from both partners, it can be changed. Are you the ANXIOUS partner? Here are 3 more tips for you: 1. Learn about Avoidant Behavior: - Recognizing and understanding where their behaviors are coming from can help you take things less personally. 2. Bring the focus back to yourself: - Pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, and needs, and do your best to prioritize yourself! Anxious partners often self-abandon during the cycle. 3. Be there for yourself: - You're likely struggling in this cycle; it's a difficult place to be! Think about how you'd support a good friend if they're going through a tough time. Do your best to show up with similar compassion for yourself. (Tips are focused on anxious partners, not because they are the only ones doing the 'work' but because this page is dedicated to anxious partners. Both partners must put in work.) NOTES: - This doesn't apply to healthy distancing. In some situations, moving away from heated conversations might be the best decision. - This doesn't apply to abusive relationships nor encouraging for you to stay in unfulfilling/unhealthy relationship. ______ P.S. Are you the anxious partner and want to break your anxious patterns and become secure in yourself and, therefore, in your relationship? 🌟Then the 'Secure Love Program' is for you!🌟 * LIVE workshops + tools + homework. * 1:1 Private Coaching with me. Limited spots (Small group) Starting soon. BOOK A CONSULT CALL - LINK IN BIO. #anxiousattachment #fearfulavoidant #avoidantattachment #relationshipanxiety #relationshipissues #relationshipproblems #attachmenttrauma #anxiousavoidanttrap #pushandpull